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Intimate Partner Violence (IPV)

Intimate Partner Violence or Domestic Abuse is a pattern of controlling or manipulative behaviors that serves to gain or maintain power over a romantic partner or family member. IPV can be physical, sexual, emotional, psychological, or economical.

  • IPV can happen to anyone regardless of race, gender, age, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion/faith, economic or social status, etc.
  • 1 in 3 women and 1 in 10 men experience sexual assault, physical violence, and/or stalking during their lifetimes.
  • 1 in 15 children witness intimate partner violence every year.
  • Individuals who identify as lesbian, gay, and/or bisexual experience IPV at the same or higher rates as individuals who identify as heterosexual.
  • At least 1 in 5 transgendered individuals experience IPV at home.
  • 20 people are victims of IPV every minute of every day.

Types of Intimate Partner Violence

Physical: pushing, slapping, hitting, pulling hair, burning, biting, choking/strangulation, using a weapon or item to physically harm you, breaking/smashing things, hurting children or pets.

Emotional/Verbal: name-calling, putting you down, making you feel worthless, humiliating you, insulting you in private or in public, threatening you or others, isolating you from others, threatening to take your children from you.

Psychological: invalidating your reality, making you feel you are going “crazy”, using actions or words that destroy self-confidence, making you feel everything is your fault, playing mind games.

Financial: controlling how money is spent, refusing you money or access to funds, getting you into debt for the abuser (i.e., getting credit cards in your name and maxing them out), not allowing you to get a job, taking your paycheck.

Sexual: forcing you to have unwanted sexual contact, drugging you or getting you intoxicated in order to have sexual contact, forcing you to do things you are uncomfortable with sexually, unwanted touching.


NC Resources

North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence (NCCADV)

NCCADV leads the state’s movement to end domestic violence and to enhance work with survivors through collaborations, innovative trainings, prevention, technical assistance, state policy development and legal advocacy. Find listings of all domestic violence agencies in North Carolina under NC Domestic Violence Service Providers.

North Carolina Department of Justice

If you are a victim of domestic violence, you can learn about your rights and the protections that North Carolina law affords you.

Women’s Law

A project of the National Network to End Domestic Violence, providing legal information and support to victims of domestic violence and sexual assault.

Legal Aid of North Carolina

Legal Aid of North Carolina is a statewide, nonprofit law firm that provides free legal services in civil matters to low-income people in order to ensure equal access to justice and to remove legal barriers to economic opportunity.

National Resources

National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

“NCADV is the voice of victims and survivors. We are the catalyst for changing society to have zero tolerance for domestic violence. We do this by affecting public policy, increasing understanding of the impact of domestic violence, and providing programs and education that drive that change.”~ NCADV Mission Statement

National Resource Center on Domestic Violence

For more than 20 years, the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence (NRCDV) has been a comprehensive source of information for those wanting to educate themselves and help others on the many issues related to domestic violence. Through its key initiatives and special projects, NRCDV works to improve community response to domestic violence and, ultimately, prevent its occurrence. Our comprehensive technical assistance, training and resource development are a few examples of the many ways in which NRCDV broadly serves those dedicated to ending domestic violence in relationships and communities.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline

The Hotline is the only 24/7 center in the nation that has access to service providers and shelters across the U.S. Today, The Hotline continues to grow and explore new avenues of service.

Futures Without Violence

For more than 30 years, FUTURES has been providing groundbreaking programs, policies, and campaigns that empower individuals and organizations working to end violence against women and children around the world. Under the leadership of Founder and President Esta Soler, FUTURES was a driving force behind passage of the Violence Against Women Act of 1994—the nation’s first comprehensive federal response to the violence that plagues families and communities.